One aspect of us INFPs is our undying affection and unconditional love for other people. In this instance, however, I say unconditional love in meaning that INFPs have a love for all people, but we are often blind to the flaws of our colleagues.
We can idealize our friends very easily. We think the best of mankind, and that worldview, that mindset makes us hope that all men are inherently good and will do good when given the chance, even though we already know that that fact is not true. We know that all men are not inherently good, that the world is full of flaws, sin, and evil, but we want to believe the world is good and tries to be better.
Our perception of the world is clouded by our hopes for mankind, and we often think the best of other people. Even if the crowd “boos” and rejects a specific person, we INFPs can easily see the good in that person, and we go against the crowd, cheering that person on.
Because of our easy praise for others, our colleagues may think we’re naive and blind to the horrible state the world actually is in. They try to convince us that the world is evil and savage, that our perception of the world is naive and foolish.
We INFPs try to ignore those sentiments given to us. Even though we admire the wise and their knowledge, we may ignore them and still strive to believe the best in other people.
As we live our lives, however, and we notice a similar pattern arise. The more we trust in others, the more we get hurt. We idealize a person, believe that they’re an amazing individual, a person worthy of praise. We trust this individual, with our secrets, our lives, and before we know it they’ve gone and done something horrible, losing our trust.
If such a terrible event happens, other people around us may shake their heads and sigh, saying, “We told you so. It would have happened sooner or later. You just can’t trust those kinds of people.”
And yet even after such events, our judgment of the world stays the same. We can’t help but believe the best about other people.
If someone cuts us off the highway, others may express how rude that person was, that they’re a jerk and an idiot. Instead, we shake our heads and say, “They could be late to work, or what if they’re rushing to the hospital?”
If someone yells at us, calling us rude names, others may say that that person is a hot-head, quick-tempered, and a jerk. Again, we express that they could just be having a rough day.
Maybe this view of the world is bad, naive, and foolish. But maybe this view of the world will change the world.
However, with our perception that most men are good, and our experience of betrayal and loss of trust, we begin to accept the fact that men are often evil but are also good deep inside, willing to change. We may act like Luke Skywalker, trying to pull his father from the Dark Side.
We INFPs would like to believe that even though we may be blind to the flaws and imperfections of the world, our belief that the world is willing to change may help the world become better in the process, instead of ignoring the world, saying that the world will never change.
So even though we are blind to the evil the world encourages, we believe that the world is better, greater, willing to change, no matter what happens. Even if individuals lose our trust, even if others betray us, even if we are bombarded by the fact that people are inherently evil, we still see the people around us as good people. They may sin and want to commit evil, but we can’t just ignore them and reject them because of their short-comings.
If you think we’re naive and foolish in believing the best in other people, maybe you’re right. But we can’t help it. We’re stuck seeing the world this way. Though we know others may betray us, we INFPs see everyone as good people. In the end, we know that our forgiveness and trust in others may change the world.
(Sorry about the absence of posts lately.)