INFP vs. INTP – Part #1 – Emotions & Relationships

In the next couple of posts I’ll be discussing the similarities and contrasts between INFP and different personality types. For this post, I’ll be discussing INFPs and INTPs and how they relate concerning emotions and relationships.

Being Around an INFP or INTP:

INFPs are very curious but can seem shy at the same time. When around them, they will want to have a piece of the action or be able to listen to the conversation going on. However, they do not like being the center of attention, so though they’re eager to be with everyone else, they don’t want the focus to be on them.

INTPs can seem very deep and private, like the INFP, to the people around them. Concerning their communication, they will only say what needs to be said. They can be very direct and sometimes blunt in what they say.


INFPs can be very emotional, understanding how they feel and how others feel. They enjoy mapping out their own emotions and following them, and they also love listening to other people and helping them deal with their emotions.

INTPs, on the other hand, are more analytical and logical than emotional. They won’t easily be persuaded by their emotions or other people’s emotions. However, when in contact with their own emotions they may be confused and may try to bury their emotions deep inside them.

Sharing Feelings

INFPs usually only show their reactions to feelings, and they are very hesitant to actually express their feelings. They will bottle up their feelings from other people, and sometimes when under lots of pressure or in unusual circumstances those feelings will leak out. INFPs at that point may be hard to understand, especially if there is no clear source for leaking out the feelings.

INTPs also struggle to share their feelings. However, when they speak their thoughts, they will be very blunt and direct in doing so, and they may express their feelings by that means.


INFPs must have their values and actions in line all the time, or else they feel that they aren’t being true to themselves or to others. If they believe an action isn’t right, to them at least, then there is little chance that they will take that action.

The INTP, on the other hand, is wary of emotional involvement and does not concern too much with emotion as they are not the INTP’s forte. If people try to become too close, emotionally, to the INTP too quickly, the INTP will “close down”.

In the next post, I’ll discuss how INFPs and INTPs each deal with conflict.



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